Reaching out to hurting women from
all walks of life.
God cares . . . and so do we.
This site is
intended to be a ministry resource site with information on: sexually
oriented businesses, reaching out to people working in this segment of
the marketplace, developing marketplace ministry outreaches and leaders,
sexual abuse, various addictions, etc. If you have an article you
would like to be considered for posting here, please email us at
jackie@jackieholland.org
Many women in our society today are trapped in self-destructive
lifestyles and are needing a a way out. In her position of Whosoever Will
Director, Chaplain Jackie Holland sees women daily who are experiencing emotional, physical and financial crisis. The background of these women
varies, however, there often runs a common thread --- unresolved issues of
childhood abuse, broken homes, a lack of education, and proper training.
Many women are currently experiencing physical abuse, homelessness, overwhelming financial burdens and drug addiction; some have even
resorted to suicide. many participate in socially unacceptable (yet
condoned) lifestyles - working in the
sex industry as topless dancers, nude
models, and prostitutes. In spite of the high-risk environment, the sex
industry appeals to these women because of their desperate need, offering them
substantial income to meet their financial burdens. Caught up in the industry of
"gentleman's entertainment', these women are living out two lives.
Perhaps, they are seeking a career or managing a home and
raising children, yet they
are trapped in a lifestyle that drives them deeper
into a cycle of destruction. Other women are serving prison terms as a result of
criminal activity. As they exit these facilities, the transitional process
back into society is very difficult. These women are often overlooked by
conventional programs and treated as outcasts of the community.
There is a high degree of hopelessness and despair among those in
this trap. They have no hope, no comprehension of a way out of their dilemma.
Many of these women have children, some are single parents. Studies
show that these destructive behaviors will repeat themselves through the
children of these women if something is not done to interrupt the cycle.
In an effort to address these issues, SOB Chaplains, an outreach of Whosoever Will Outreach
Ministries (W.O.M.A.N. was founded by Chaplain Holland to reach out to
women working in the sex industry.
If you would like more information about other ministries
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2001 Gentlemen's Club Owners Expo - Jackie and Lisanne with porn legend Ron Jeremy. I am not sure Ron knew why we were at the Expo that year!
Lisanne Murrary of Lightdancers Ministries and Jackie with guest - Gentlemen's Club Owner Expo - 2001 - Las Vegas
Lisanne and Jackie with Jeannie Turner of One Way Out Ministries of Florida.
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2001 Gentlemen's Club Owners Expo - Jackie and Lisanne with porn legend Ron Jeremy. I am not sure Ron knew why we were at the Expo that year!
What is a sexually oriented
business (SOB)?
A sexually oriented business is one that has as its
primary or one of its primary business purposes, or has a substantial or
significant portion of its business in specified sexual activities or is
related to specirfied anatomical areas.
There are several kinds
of SOBs
Adult arcades, bookstores, video stores, novelty shows,
cabarets, gentlemen's clubs, strip clubs, gentlemen's clubs, go-go clubs,
motels, movie theatres, massage parlors, sexual encounter businesses, escort
services, nude modeling studios, etc.
In the latter case, the club will probably sell food and (if legal)
alcoholic beverages.
Such businesses are sometimes considered
exploitative because they tend to take advantage of their hired
entertainment by using their
sex
appeal to increase the state of
sexual arousal of its customers who, in turn, tend to spend more
money as a result.
An increasing number of such businesses are becoming owned by the
entertainers themselves as they seek to remove the exploitative
stigma associated with them.
*Names have been changed. Amber*, a topless
dancer from a local club, called and asked me if I would like to attend the
grand opening for the newest topless club in Arlington. She thought it would be
a great way to meet the new managers and some of the girls who would be working
that night. She told me there would be a free banquet meal and instructed me to
dress in After Five attire. I prayed and asked God whether or not I should go.
I shall never forget how I felt when I walked into the club that night. I wore a
nice pair of black crepe slacks, silk shell and a
beautiful long sleeved
sequined black jacket. It is the same outfit I have worn at special occasions
for church festivities and banquets. Needless to say, I was overdressed. I
arrived a little later than I had planned and as it turned out I missed Amber's
dance. Amber smiled as she saw me, 'Jackie, I'm really glad you came. But I'm
also glad that you missed my dance.'
She was dressed in an attractive black After Five dress accessorized with flashy
jewelry. I felt privileged to be her friend and also special to have been
included as her guest. I really do not know what I expected, but for some
reason, I had not expected to see the girls dance that night. It was amazing to
me to see so very many young 20-40 year old males there. Most of them were
dressed very nice and looked as if they had just left their executive corporate
offices.
I thought for a minute as I surveyed the crowd, "How can women stand a chance
anymore when the world is offering this type of gentlemen's entertainment. How
can just a normal woman ever hope to get a man, much less, keep him." Of course,
that was my flesh thinking and the Lord quickly brought reality into being right
before my eyes.
Beautiful girls everywhere, many standing brazenly along the walls, smiling at
passing men. Talk about a meat market. I, for the first time, understood what
the game was all about. It's about gentlemen's entertainment, flesh, and lust.
The old song, "Let Me Entertain You," came into the light. I could easily
remember the times when my ex-husband wanted me to dance for him and seduce
him. Now I knew where he learned all that he had wanted and expected from me.
My mind raced back and I felt foolish and embarrassed that I would do a little
dance, giggling like a school girl, and yet wanting to be a seductive vixen
waiting for the kill. I snapped back into reality and apologized to God for being
human.
A man sitting at the table next to me asked, "Do you do table dances?"
He seemed a little embarrassed about his approach and smiled when I smiled back
at him and said, "Not on your life." About that time, Amber said to everyone
around the table, 'I want to introduce my friend, Jackie Holland. Jackie is
a chaplain and she is here to meet the managers and some of the girls.' The
fellow beside me quickly said, "I am so sorry. I had no idea who you were."
I told him, "No problem. I am in no way here to ruin your evening." After
that he and I had a wonderful discussion about his family, his church and
his marital problems.
He was not a bad man. I believe he was representative
of most of the men there. The environment itself brings out the basic animal
lust in a person. Thank God I knew I was on divine assignment. It became
very clear to me what was happening. God began to show me hurts and wounds
on the faces of the men and women there that night. My heart was so very sad,
it would have been easy to break into tears. However, I was praying, "God,
how can I ever meet these people with this loud music, topless dancers
doing special table dances for individual men around me."
I disappeared into
the crowd, hidden from any eyes of the men. As I sat there, drinking my
Coke, talking to different ones around the table I found myself interceding
for women in the room. I could see how you could get caught up in the craze
of the moment, the attention, the dollar bills placed inside the edge of
the tiny G-strings. I could see how you could become hardened to the crudeness,
the eager hands and lust-filled eyes of the men. Having men want you and look
at you as if they would die or kill for you at that moment surely fills the
need for love starved and abused women. I could see how out of rejection and
pain you could rationalize why you could do that job.
And it is a job.
They work very hard. Five inch heels make your legs look great, but think
about wearing them for hours, night after night. Every man means dollars to those
women, and for the most part, the men have no qualms about paying for their
personal entertainment. For whatever reason the women are there, whether putting
themselves through school or supporting a boyfriend or children. It's just a
job and great money. That's the way everyone rationalizes the clubs. Sure they
all plan on quitting, on not getting hooked or trapped into the lifestyle.
However most find that they can't quit because of the good money, and the fact
is you get the perks from men that you need.
The men appear to be in the
same trap. After all, they get the rush they need, and generally go home
to loving wives and children. No one thinks that addiction to sex and porn
will get them hooked into a lifestyle that can actually control their
every waking moment.
All for adult entertainment.
That night, before leaving, my friend introduced me to Jack, the manager
of the club and Lucille, the House Mom and some of the girls. When I shared
with Jack and Lucille that I wanted to put up posters in their dressing
room and leave business cards, they said, "Sure, sounds great. Lots of the
girls here are in abusive homes and have some major drug and alcohol problems."
They even thanked me for caring and said they would keep my card. No one
seems to admit they might have a problem. But this is for sure, even people
who have never stepped foot in a topless club or taken drugs or drank alcohol,
have needs and problems. Let's face it, we are in a fast paced society with
people who come from all walks of life, all nationalities and belief systems.
All have some very major hurts and needs. We, as the followers of Jesus Christ,
need to awaken out of our sleep and realize that we, as believers, are the very
ones called by God to go into all the world and be His representatives.
Get off the little Christian soapbox and start loving people.
It really isn't
about work or profession. It's about finding fulfillment, peace and love.
Wake up, Oh, sleeping Church Start praying and believing. If you are not
sent to go into dark places, send someone who is called by God. Pray and cover
them and ask for divine protection. God will open doors that no man can open,
He can close the doors no man can close. You are never going to change lives
by merely sitting around watching Christian TV or entertaining your own self
and friends. Jesus is coming back...prepare the way for Him. Go and tell...
go and be the light...go and help...ask God to give resources and divine guidance
to Christians. The world is turned off by the lack of care and love by the
modern church….Get real.
When I left the club that night I, of course, had
mixed feelings. I had no desire to tear down clubs, but I had a real desire
to tear down walls. Walls that are separating light from darkness. Jesus said,
"Do not attempt to cast out the speck in another's eye unless you first cast
out the log in your own." Condemnation will never bring people to Jesus. Love
is the key...God is love.…
As I was gathering my purse and preparing to leave
the club that night, the gentleman next to me asked, "Would you remember to
pray for my marriage? 'Yes, of course,' I answered. I gave him my card and told
him to call if he ever needed to. He said, "Thank you for caring about these
girls. They really are hurting, aren't they?" "Yes," I said, "and will you
remember to pray for this ministry?" As I walked out, no one seemed to notice.
All eyes were on the girls and women who were moving to the beat of a
different drummer.
What
is a sexually oriented business (SOB)?
A sexually oriented
business is one that has as its primary or one of its primary
business purposes, or has a substantial or significant portion of its
business in specified sexual activities or is related to specirfied
anatomical areas.
There are
several kinds of SOBs
Adult arcades,
bookstores, video stores, novelty shows, cabarets, gentlemen's clubs,
strip clubs, gentlemen's clubs, go-go clubs, motels, movie theatres,
massage parlors, sexual encounter businesses, escort services,
nude modeling studios, etc.
Many women in our society today are trapped in self-destructive
lifestyles and are needing a a way out. In her position of Whosoever Will
Director, Chaplain Jackie Holland sees women daily who are experiencing emotional, physical and financial crisis. The background of these women
varies, however, there often runs a common thread --- unresolved issues of
childhood abuse, broken homes, a lack of education, and proper training. 
industry as topless dancers, nude
models, and prostitutes. In spite of the high-risk environment, the sex
industry appeals to these women because of their desperate need, offering them
substantial income to meet their financial burdens. Caught up in the industry of
"gentleman's entertainment', these women are living out two lives. .jpg)
e is a high degree of hopelessness and despair among those in
this trap. They have no hope, no comprehension of a way out of their dilemma.
Many of these women have children, some are single parents. Studies
show that these destructive behaviors will 
repeat themselves through the
children of these women if something is not done to interrupt the cycle. 
